I’m always the person to show up and show out for my family and my friends, but I don’t extend that same courtesy to myself. If I want to do something, go somewhere or buy myself something, I ALWAYS TALK MYSELF OUT OF IT!!! I mentally give myself reasons why I shouldn’t spend on myself and give reasons I should keep the money to do things with my kids. Since I’ve become a mom, this has been my mindset. Recently, I realized I do deserve to treat myself (it takes nothing from my babies).
I have an idea for doing a special thing that’s just for me, even small things like buying myself a latte, I talk myself out my little treats. As a result, I get moody and angry as though someone came in and said no! You don’t deserve these little moments of happiness. I have been treating myself recently, without the guilt! I realize that treating myself adds to my happiness, helping me to be a more satisfied parent to my babies.
Doing shadow work, I realized the guilt part stemmed from me feeling neglected as a child. Watching the adults around me treat themselves consistently while excluding the children was embedded in my brain, in one of those locked doors. I’ve unlocked the door and freed myself from that guilt that was never mine. Be as kind, forgiving and loving to yourself as you are to everyone else in your life. You deserve the B-E-S-T life has to offer, don’t you forget it! ♥️♥️